Married but longing the life of a Bachelor

[ZanShen]

Originally Posted by Greenfrog

if u ask me, a lot of people marry for the sake of marriage.

True. IMO men are men, even if he found the appropriate one, he could be tempted to stray one day. Moreover, women will look less desirable as they age. That's why SYT Working Girls command a higher price than Milfs.

[melvin8341]

Originally Posted by ZanShen

I think you are spot on! The human minds are complex. Although I know what you just said is all true, my heart still wrenching...ouch!

i dont know if it works, but you can try to go back to courting days and bring the flame back to the relationship. it will be tough at first. you need to force it. i believe its boredom and you seek something new and refreshing with is actually a temporary thing. so i dont suggest breaking up the family.

[jackjackoff]

Op speaking the truth for many cheongsters. Double identity is the way of life.

[nkyc]

Originally Posted by jackjackoff

Op speaking the truth for many cheongsters. Double identity is the way of life.

We are all superheroes and dark knights

Don't geh qiang do an ironman and now die already

[ZanShen]

Originally Posted by melvin8341

i dont know if it works, but you can try to go back to courting days and bring the flame back to the relationship. it will be tough at first. you need to force it. i believe its boredom and you seek something new and refreshing with is actually a temporary thing. so i dont suggest breaking up the family.

This is tough. I don't even sleep in the same room and on the same bed as my wife. I lost my desire for her sadly.

[ZanShen]

Originally Posted by nkyc

We are all superheroes and dark knights

Don't geh qiang do an ironman and now die already

You could be right. But everyone live once, so we shouldn't try for our own happiness?

[melvin8341]

Originally Posted by ZanShen

This is tough. I don't even sleep in the same room and on the same bed as my wife. I lost my desire for her sadly.

i understand. but all couples actually go through this period of getting bored of the relationship. its whether you decide you want to keep or let go of the relationship.

i always tell people why our parents and grandparent days so little divorce. got problem they chose to fix it not get bored tired and divorce.

new generations now so easy give up.

if u give up this relationship now, the next will be the same. because you will hit a bored phase again and give up to find one more exciting.

[TheIdesOfMarch]

Funny. I'm the opposite. I'm single, and I miss the times when I was attached in a relationship.

IDK if it says something wrong about me that I've never held down any relationship with my exes for more than a year each.

[alexalmighty90]

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch

Funny. I'm the opposite. I'm single, and I miss the times when I was attached in a relationship.

IDK if it says something wrong about me that I've never held down any relationship with my exes for more than a year each.

whats the reasons for the break ups ? no more spark ?

[Penguin23]

Originally Posted by ZanShen

This is tough. I don't even sleep in the same room and on the same bed as my wife. I lost my desire for her sadly.

What happened, bro - you mentioned that you are married with kids. Did your wife lose her figure and that leads you to lose physical attraction for her?

That is very common, and honestly understandable

[harleyquinnz]

The best time for sexual actions and having those wild times trying the boundaries on each other bodies are always during pak tor stage, almost want to sign on the dotted line, but not there yet. Once signed, everything starts to wane. Once u kena kids, u can virtually start surfing here to look for release kangtao. This is esp true if you marry a Chinese girl. My Malay ah bangs still bang their other halves whether got one or three kids regularly.

Single now. Sometimes I see couples hand in hand walking, I do feel a tinge of emptiness. But when I see them screaming and shouting, esp the girls outscream and out slap the male, I think I'm better off single. Not young anymore. Another short while, I will become too old to have any meaningful relationship. Dun even need to think of starting a family. By the time my son go NS, i can start to go for annual health checks if I'm still driving.

I do not miss those times when i had arguments and the tensions in long drawn cold war. I and my ex gotten a unit in Pinnacle at Duxton, BLK 1F, level 23-XX during the 2nd ballot. That shows my age now. Broke up. But during those time of repeated cold war, fights etc, I wonder holding to this flat is worthwhile or not. Am i in relationship because we are in love or simply because of just the marriage and the flat?

Now, i just do what i want, go find WLs & FLs whenever i need. I got help in Siam to get me escorts that will accompany me whenever i need a short trip to Pattaya or Phuket who will do all stunts that i request, of course, with money top up.

My friends with wives more often than not complain about these problems during our regular drinking sessions. But the funny things i gather is that the more white collar your wife is, the more issues you have ie little to nil fxxks, nagging etc. It those with not much education spouses that are the more simple and accommodative

Until the day i see no joy in these fxxks, I will still continue to do what i like.

[ZanShen]

Originally Posted by Penguin23

What happened, bro - you mentioned that you are married with kids. Did your wife lose her figure and that leads you to lose physical attraction for her?

That is very common, and honestly understandable

You are right. She is also older than me and has aged a lot. In addition, she has a low sex drive and is shy about being intimate.

[francisloo1405]

Originally Posted by ZanShen

You are right. She is also older than me and has aged a lot. In addition, she has a low sex drive and is shy about being intimate.

well we all age, and that is why attraction lost. the grass is greener on the other side feeling you are getting probably lust which i think not worth it to destroy the relationship to get something temporary. after your other side grass no more green, you turn back and its all gone and you have nothing. so better dont

[Penguin23]

Originally Posted by ZanShen

You are right. She is also older than me and has aged a lot. In addition, she has a low sex drive and is shy about being intimate.

This is one of those times when you need to have a Difficult Conversation with the wife. I am guessing that you are the type who will avoid these types of conversations for fear of not being able to handle the conflict.

The wife needs to understand that a man's sex drive cannot be turned off. For some men it stays strong until old age, for some others it becomes a lot weaker (but that usually means they also develop a big drop in energy levels)

So what is it exactly that she expects you to do? Just wank off every time you want to do it?

I think that is what the ladies' answer tend to be. But as guys we know that this is wholly unsatisfactory.

The end result is usually quite predictable - the guy seeks sexstisfaction elsewhere and falls in love with a lady of the night.

[larue]

Originally Posted by Penguin23

The end result is usually quite predictable - the guy seeks sexstisfaction elsewhere and falls in love with a lady of the night.

To be fair, a large number of men are perfectly able to keep their activities with ladies of the night completely segregated from their other activities, and perform perfectly well as good husbands and fathers with no great temptation to throw everything away for these ladies.

When men start doing that, it is because of a dissatisfaction far greater than sex with their wives, or the lack thereof.

This whole ‘falling in love’, especially with the professionals is merely an escapism born of a very deep unhappiness with their lives.

Put it this way: one would be hard pressed to find a man who is happy with his kids, his careers, his sense of self worth but whose wife doesn’t provide ‘adequate’ sex saying ‘I’m going to give everything up for sex’.