Anyone else married Vietbu?

[KennyDalglish7]

Originally Posted by holomolo

Getting married soon, need all the advice I can get

Have you heard about the 3 rings on marriage?
Engagement ring, wedding ring, then the .......

[snooker]

Originally Posted by kooolboy

most of the viet lady i know after marriage will have ECA outside.
even happily married ones are the same.

This is quite true as both my Viet FB are married

[10019999]

Originally Posted by kooolboy

most of the viet lady i know after marriage will have ECA outside.
even happily married ones are the same.

I know some friends have ECA even during dating time.

[holomolo]

Originally Posted by damong777

To sum up any foregin marriage,

1. Where, how and duration you know her from
2. U marry due to baby or really love
3. You understand her culture or not

If 1, 2 and 3 r red flags, then I would advise you rather not marry. Be a bastard instead of regretting lager.

1。From friends of friends meetup for supper/drinking session. Know her for about one year already.

2. No shotgun la, because marrying seems to be the way for her to continue living here to work.

3. I can't say I understand the full of it, but roughly here and there.

[holomolo]

Originally Posted by KennyDalglish7

Have you heard about the 3 rings on marriage?
Engagement ring, wedding ring, then the .......

Very chim, what ring, Red Ring of Death i know LOL

[Piledriver]

Originally Posted by holomolo

1。From friends of friends meetup for supper/drinking session. Know her for about one year already.

2. No shotgun la, because marrying seems to be the way for her to continue living here to work.

3. I can't say I understand the full of it, but roughly here and there.

Bro, so you are marrying her just so that she can continue to be living here? Are you sure about this whole thing?

Does she really love you? Sounds like she's only making use of you to be able to work here. I hope you can open your eyes big enough to see the whole picture.

[blacknight6]

Originally Posted by holomolo

Very chim, what ring, Red Ring of Death i know LOL

The third ring is ….. Suffer..ring

[Bencyrus]

Originally Posted by holomolo

Getting married soon, need all the advice I can get

1 important factor, which is her vietnamese friends in Sg, as may easily get influence, especially when both of u quarrel time. there are good ones, u just need 1 bad ones to pollute her mind. just my opinion. all the best bro!

[Cajoj]

Originally Posted by holomolo

Getting married soon, need all the advice I can get

smth to consider, marry out of true love?
as no one marry to get divorce.

[loster]

I married a Vnb here. Just want to share on my experience. I knew her thru my friend wife. So the type of friends she has is very important. If they are good influences, definitely she will be good. Also need to learn each other language vice versa. Google translation is not accurate as it is just literal translation word for word. Vn culture is definitely different from Singapore so do understand from her POV also. Need to set expectations especially on money as Vn see singaporeans as rich as our currency is strong. They will expect you to help out with her family. Hence the need to set expectations. I would say I am lucky because my wife helps me to save a lot and also motivate me to work harder

[junior_cannibal]

A couple of personal comment from me:
1 marrying a Viet is not a downgrade, neither is marrying a Singaporean wife is an upgrade. The grades are not determined by the colour, race or nationality. If this analogy of one bro here is correct, then what if a bro is marrying a Vietnamese billionaire's daughter? Is that up or downgrade
2 as mentioned by most here, where, how you met the Vietnamese and for how long you have known each other? If communication is an issue, what attracts her about you? Your good look, your wealth or the possibility of getting a marriage to save her from poverty? This list can go on and on.
I have known some foreign brides who are good and committed. The question is always how and what the relationship was built upon.

[owlette]

Originally Posted by Piledriver

Bro, so you are marrying her just so that she can continue to be living here? Are you sure about this whole thing?

Does she really love you? Sounds like she's only making use of you to be able to work here. I hope you can open your eyes big enough to see the whole picture.

I second what bro Piledriver is saying. Are you really sure about this?

Originally Posted by holomolo

2. No shotgun la, because marrying seems to be the way for her to continue living here to work.

This is a fucking huge red flag sia. Bro damong ask if its for baby or love, your response is the above. you jialat already bro

Bro, you've to really be realistic about the situation. You marry her just for her to continue living here to work.

If things work out, then fine and dandy bro. good for you and congratulations.

but if a divorce ever comes in, you're always on the losing end.
marriage as much as even i tell my wife its just a piece of paper. that paper in singapore is not playplay one ah.

[SerflySGR]

Originally Posted by holomolo

1。From friends of friends meetup for supper/drinking session. Know her for about one year already.

2. No shotgun la, because marrying seems to be the way for her to continue living here to work.

3. I can't say I understand the full of it, but roughly here and there.

Since you know her from your friends' friends, have you spoken to them, Bro holomolo?

What they say? Good to go?

[damong777]

Go read the article 29th Aug 2022 to see u r ready for such shit or not.

Bro holomolo what sort of job need marry to continue working...if normal job, can renew permit one. If nightlife, then ur call

U must also consider u going apply ltvp or ltvp plus for her.

In end we can only advise as is ur life and will be ur shit when u hit the wall.

1 year not long. And with covid, I dun believe u go her home in vn see before. I could be wrong. If u never go see before, go see and open ur eyes first before the leap of faith

All marriages got good and bad ones. However is sad that people always take rotten apples to compare.

When prc marriages were in trending alot of comments

Now vn marriages trending comments change to vn..so u see urself same issues different nationalities

[bbqchiz]

Wah TS bro. Based on your responses, it’s a huge RED FLAG sia.

Sounds like you’re trying to support her from a financial POV, but once you move into marriage, you’re getting your family involved too!

If things ended badly, you sure you want your parents or family to go through that with you?

Please think twice. One thing to waste money, but a totally different thing if you’re wasting your life away….