Relationship with an Ex Freelance

[Vermeer]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

I did ask her what kind of status she is to me. She also do not know as she also knew me divorcing my wife will means a lot of chaotic change to my life. So we settled on mistress for now.

However it is with your wife, handle it as a separate issue, not with consideration to your 'mistress'.
If you want to split with the wife, do it only because its really bad, not because its bad and you have another girl on the side.

Also, you have spent quite some effort on the 'mistress', could things between you and your wife have been better if you have spent the same effort on it ?

One of my married friend is very philosophical about his wife.
He has dissatisfactions and complains with how his life is now, but he also says, it is because his wife is handling other stuff in life that leaves him free to grumble and complain.

[Sivic]

Atb to ts with his life and hope all is going to get better

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Vermeer

However it is with your wife, handle it as a separate issue, not with consideration to your 'mistress'.
If you want to split with the wife, do it only because its really bad, not because its bad and you have another girl on the side.

Also, you have spent quite some effort on the 'mistress', could things between you and your wife have been better if you have spent the same effort on it ?

One of my married friend is very philosophical about his wife.
He has dissatisfactions and complains with how his life is now, but he also says, it is because his wife is handling other stuff in life that leaves him free to grumble and complain.

Yes what you said make sense. Maybe if i spend the same effort with my wife things might turn out different between us. I married my wife on a rush also because she is not local. I knew her when i was working oversea. When i came back to singapore in order to let her stay here long term and continue with the relationship. We have to get married. But it turn out that she is a good wife who take care of the family well. Its not fair to her and its my fault. I only have care for her due to responsibility. Even if it does not work between me and Gin. I will only stay with her due to responsibility.

Currently i will try to make it work with Gin. There are scary story of Thai Women who drain foreign men of their savings if they have a relationship with them. Let hope i am not one of those victim.

[loner]

It seem you already have your mind fixed on the mistress or her spell already bind you up.

Long term relationship is not going to be easy but it will still work out if the trust issued was sorted out early. Both have to be true to each other.

In actual fact I do have 2 friends who both working in Singapore while their wife staying in Bkk. Thing work out very well for them and they fly over every few months and stay over there. Both also bought a house in Bkk under their wife name.

So have you already travel out to meet her and pls share the Sexciting part which we fellow samster like to read.

[Thesmiths]

Originally Posted by loner

It seem you already have your mind fixed on the mistress or her spell already bind you up.

Long term relationship is not going to be easy but it will still work out if the trust issued was sorted out early. Both have to be true to each other.

In actual fact I do have 2 friends who both working in Singapore while their wife staying in Bkk. Thing work out very well for them and they fly over every few months and stay over there. Both also bought a house in Bkk under their wife name.

So have you already travel out to meet her and pls share the Sexciting part which we fellow samster like to read.

I agree with u bro

[lbb-]

am I the only one that thinks the part of not checking phone and disappearing for 7 hours is suspicious?

anyway all the best bro.

[Oeuvre]

You are late 40s, going into sunset of your life.
She is early 20s ? In U, her whole life in front of her.

She can afford to start over again, can you ?

Are you believing only because you really want to.

[trueno2008]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

Yes what you said make sense. Maybe if i spend the same effort with my wife things might turn out different between us. I married my wife on a rush also because she is not local. I knew her when i was working oversea. When i came back to singapore in order to let her stay here long term and continue with the relationship. We have to get married. But it turn out that she is a good wife who take care of the family well. Its not fair to her and its my fault. I only have care for her due to responsibility. Even if it does not work between me and Gin. I will only stay with her due to responsibility.

Currently i will try to make it work with Gin. There are scary story of Thai Women who drain foreign men of their savings if they have a relationship with them. Let hope i am not one of those victim.

Suggest you think 10-20yrs later what will happen... I have through similar only to look back what a silly decision. Of cos everyone conviction is different... Best of luck to you and in my opinion, no one can give you a good advise. Your life, one journey and a bet you need to take. Good or bad, have to live it.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Oeuvre

You are late 40s, going into sunset of your life.
She is early 20s ? In U, her whole life in front of her.

She can afford to start over again, can you ?

Are you believing only because you really want to.

Well if I stay with my current marriage. It’s sole for responsibility and maintaining an image of a happy family.

Even without meeting Gin, I am not happy with my wife. Anyway I believe in marriage anymore.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by trueno2008

Suggest you think 10-20yrs later what will happen... I have through similar only to look back what a silly decision. Of cos everyone conviction is different... Best of luck to you and in my opinion, no one can give you a good advise. Your life, one journey and a bet you need to take. Good or bad, have to live it.

Have thought of it even before I propose to gin about having a relationship. Yes by the time she is 40+ I am much older. But I might die a happy man rather than living a life of regret.

The age gap is a concern, but she told me it is common in Thailand and she dun mind. I just hope i have good enough sex drive to satisfy her. So far since i stop booking freelance already. There is not much sexual encounter anymore. So i have to resort to HJ myself every day to maintain good sexual health. I also eating healthy and do workout almost everyday. (This is 180° change in my previous life style.)

Any good recommendation for good Juagen massage for men in singapore?

Anyway we will leave it to faith to decide.

[Zacc]

If like you said, you are supporting her with what you have, then what do you have left for the future ?

[Bigbluebird]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

The age gap is a concern, but she told me it is common in Thailand and she dun mind. I just hope i have good enough sex drive to satisfy her. So far since i stop booking freelance already.

Take everything she says with many pinches of salt. I have seen and known such Thai women, you're just one of her many ATMs. Age gap doesn't matter because you don't matter to her, only your financial support and subscription to her does matter.

Seen so many of them spending money on their gigs (aka flings) and on their other men.

[Bigbluebird]

Originally Posted by trueno2008

Suggest you think 10-20yrs later what will happen... I have through similar only to look back what a silly decision. Of cos everyone conviction is different... Best of luck to you and in my opinion, no one can give you a good advise. Your life, one journey and a bet you need to take. Good or bad, have to live it.

He kena gongtao liao, smelly CB will also be perfume to him at this stage

[Jipp7]

Get out of it fast

[znoobshitz]

Not sure if it's relevant to TS. But are you able to speak Thai? I find that if you're able to speak and understand, it'll unlock a higher level in your r/s. You also said that she doesn't use her phone for 6-7 hours? She can be your Mia noi, but are you the only guy in her line app?

Susu na!