FB - Should I accept?

[waaaaaa]

Originally Posted by jake85

Probably you should think about your huband and kids again. Try to think back about those happy moment you once shared with them. Think about how you and your huband go thru thick and weals, how he woo you, and those marriage vow u made towards him. Maybe this will help?

yeah, think about the time when you throw your temper and he endure all these, think of the time when you are pregnant with your son and he did every things to make u feel better. think of the time when u gave birth and he hold your hands beside the bed.

its most time when something happen to you and your hubby. u met a guy and feels hes so much better then your hubby. but think of this. how much do we know and see the person we see on the road? you know he snored? u know he like to dig his nose? u know he like to fart loudly? for many guys including me, in order to get into the pants of the gal, we will do most things, shown the best side of ourself.

u mentioned that you are attracted to him. i can tell you i am attracted to most pretty ladies i met so far. but so what? I had FB before, i had a clean cut ones, once i feel that they got too attached, i end the thing. cos i know deep in myself, i will nev give my wife up. and the more u mentioned that you are attracted to him. what if after a few fuck and he leaves u? would crying helps? if your hubby finds out, what will he do? what will u do? if hes good and accept u back, are u able to live with your guilt? i sensed that u would get yourself deeply attached to him till u cant let go. think of your son and hubby. think of the wonderful time u spend together.

its never easy to stay together for 20 over years. you had too much to lose by becoming his FB. His approach is lame...........

[hihiz]

Originally Posted by OC.SIN09

I have been a passive reader of SBF for the past few months so not entirely new here but this is my 1st post & thread. I'm not sure if I post this thread under the correct topic, please correct me if I'm wrong.

Before I seek for bro & sis advice, let me briefly introduce myself.

I'm a working OC for 20+ years with a teenage child. Facing the same common problems in marriage as most of you here, sex with hubby is no longer exciting and satisfying. In fact, he is more like a stranger than a hubby to me now. Although I have many opportunities to get out of my marriage with ppl met thru my career, I'm not ready to give up my marriage as it will mean hurting both of our extended families whom I have great relationship.

Many months ago (before I started reading in SBF), I met a guy (B) whom I'm quite attracted to. We started chit-chatting causally & out of the blue 1 day, he asked me to be his FB! He explained how FB relationship should be. I was very shocked at that time as I have never heard about FB relationship and wonder how can any gal agree to that! Of course I rejected him and we stopped contacting.

Recently, B and I cross path again. He asked me to be his FB again. This time, I'm tempted. But I still hesitate because I know that being FB is purely on sex only, no feeling should be involved. But I'm attracted to him, so there is a certain degree of feeling for him. Should I accept to be his FB? Am I playing with fire?

It's up to you to choose to be a mother/ wife; or a slut which many despise. I WILL look down on you. U have no determination and faith towards your marriage, no consideration for your child and family.

That is if you choose to be some stranger's sex slave over being a decent woman.

[markck]

Hi there, when i saw your threat i told myself maybe i just got to say something. i m a guy who is married, but i m in SB and i had been naughty, so you get my drift? my wife would probably be having the same feeling as you. But don't get me wrong, i still love her and i always do. I know you have needs, just like my wife, seriously if she had a FB now, i would forgive her if i found out, but i can't say the same for your hubby, so whatever you do, just remember there are certain degree of risk and you got to bear the consequences if you are caught. Personally i think if you have found a "responsible" FB who is clean n safe n of cos satisfied u, it is better than ONS cos the risk is lower becos i am sure you still love your hubby n your kids. You got to think this through yourself carefully. but a word of advice, don't put feeling into your relationship with your FB, cos probably he doesn't. And feeling fo set clear guideline with her. Like he can't develop for you, call you at wee hour, expect you to meet him anytime, expect you to call/msg him anytime, anywhere, putting your marriage at risk etc etc. I just hope you find happiness and your marriage remain in contact n your "secrets" folllows you into your grave in the future.

[Bangster]

Sister TS,

I think you have no idea what an FB is when you can mention you have feelings for him.

Don't think too much,

go pick up that wok and ladle and start cooking up a good meal for your husband who will be coming home in awhile.

When he is lying in bed later, give him a good blow and behave like the dirtiest slut he has ever seen in his entire damn life. Wear something sexy and tell him to fxxk you bad cos you've been craving for something really naughty and you have not had it yet.

It's easy to stay happy.

[loneyheart]

Hi Sis

After reading yr posting I just smile w yr ignorance n try to give it a passed.
But w a lot of ???? in mind i decided to reply u w questions for yr self reflects n hope it do help u to ans to yr own question

1. You r a working OC for 20+ years with a teenage child.
R u a real sis as mention in yr post in yr 40+ ? If so u should not hv asked whether u r playing w fire.. u should be mature enough to hv brain to know t ans. OR r u just a naughty boy who just end sch holiday feel bore n try to b funny?

2. Facing the same common problems in marriage as most of you here, sex with hubby is no longer exciting and satisfying. In fact, he is more like a stranger than a hubby to me now.
What did yr husband do to u ? Is he a responsible husband ? Did u try to make a 1st step to talk n share..go for vacation or something ? Did u try something sexy to enhance both sex relationship ?
Beside SEX there still something call SELF RESPECT and RESPONSIBILITY If u dont what diff u make then an animals

3. Although I have many opportunities to get out of my marriage with ppl met thru my career,
If this cross yr mind , r u a flirt n only think for yr selfishness ?

4. I'm not ready to give up my marriage as it will mean hurting both of our extended families whom I have great relationship.
U talk more like a mature n responsible lady ,keep it up.

5. Many months ago , I met a guy (B) whom I'm quite attracted to. We started chit-chatting causally & out of the blue 1 day, he asked me to be his FB!
Only many mths...chit chat CAUSALLY...then asked to b FB ???
Hi sis i think u got more thing to hide dum u ??
How old is he >40+ married w family ? ( If not something wrong w him )
U want to blew up 2 family just to fullfill yr sex desire as a fatal attraction if someone found out ?
Or is he much younger then u , u want to be a OLD COW LIKE TO EAT GREEN YOUNG GRASS ? ...HaHa R u a Chiobu or a MILF in yr 40s as t guy asked u to b FB ? Or r u a rich MLND n he just going for yr $$$ ?

6. FB
Both party meet just purely for sex desire n lusts , no emotion feeling . If one party start to become sticky n show high emotional feeling...GAME OVER.
If never play by t rule it can be turn to b a FATAL ATTRACTION ! So beware.



THERE ARE DIFF CONSEQUANCES TO FACE AMONG MARRIED MAN OR WOMAN WHO CAUGHT FLIRTING AROUND

Man will leble as " Fong Liu" or " Lau Tio Kio "
Most of guys let small bro take control of big bro... after t sex desire n release most bros will return home ,,,n try to b a husband.
Tats why we guys like to just pay for sex n Fuck n Forget wo any string attached. Moreover after all we still need to go back home to become a GOOD HUSBAND n a GOOD FATHER

Woman will be leble as " Cheap " or " slut "
Woman think w only one head .... to hv SEX she must has emotional feeling !st... unless she work hard for $$$ ( FL or Whore )

If a wife found out husband is cheating on her.
Most wife but not all will forgive ( but not forget ) husband if he amid t wrong doing n end t relationship w t other woman. Tats is for t sake of their children as a complete family .
Friends n relatives will asked wife to forgive husband as he " yi shi fong liu "

If a husband found out wife cheating on him.
How many man can withstand a wife who gave him a " Green Hat " wo anger wo doing anything ?
Not to mention he may bit up her FB / Guyfriend or worst KILL him.
THAT A MAN PRIDE

DUM TELL ME ITS UNFAIR... CAUSE TATS NO SUCH THING AS FAIR



Sorry for being such a long winded n hope no offend to u sis .
Hope u found yr ans n WAKE UP be its TOO LATE

To all reader if u disagreed pls dum zap me just my small cent of IMHO

[rfnh74]

Hi Sis OC....Dont play with fire...Give it a miss ok...

Cheers

[steamer]

Originally Posted by OC.SIN09

To bro steamer,
From your expereince, how do you keep your feeling or rather how your lady FB keeps her feeling under control?

it is ok to have feelings or even love someone w/out expecting tat person to spend the rest of his/her life with you. Her happiness comes first; if she is happy, I am happy for her; thats enuf.
Juz accept these principles.

cheers

[yayalor]

Hi TS,

From your replies, i guess you sex with your husband is like plain water and never have experience highly charge sexual feeling as described by bros here. Trust me, you are not alone, there are many women and guys (i am one of them) out here life you.
If that what you want, why not go for go for ons ? You don't need to know what is that guy and there is not continuity with him and not emotion attachment.
Like bros here, you have to be very emotionally very strong, the guy who is your FB might have more than one FB and might not be there when you need it.
Go be volunteer work. You will be able to appreciate what you have esp when you see how people are struggling to keep their life going.
If you email me or any of the bros here if you need someone to listen to your problem.

Take care.

[naturegreen]

Hi OC TS, I can see that most are advising you against this FB thingy. I shall not go too deep into what others have advised you. My stand is:

1) If you are tempted to do it. You feel like doing it and it makes you much happier, then by all means go ahead, do it. But do not forget the consequences which other samsters have advised.

2) Always remember it's just a FB-FB relationship. Unless you are ready for this kind of FB relationship and you think you can be in control of you own emotions.

3) Do note that for majority of guys who "tao jia", they are still able to go back to their home, to their wife whom they still love and treasure at the end of the day, it was their 'lit bro in control temporarily at that moment.
But for females, majority who "tao jia" are not able to do it and tend to let their heart overtake and control anything else. I have many friends who are living examples, the girls "tao jia", in the end they feel guilty towards their husband or fall in love with their FB and thus resulting in a divorce.

4) How trustworthy is this guy who proposed a FB relationship with you? Does he know your family?

5) If it's too risky, then heed the advice of the majority here.

Unless
a) your husband fails to provide the sexual needs which you want
b) romance to a certain degree that is no longer existing between you and your husband
c) excitement which you are seeking for
else I think you should not accept his proposal.

I have my own encounters with ladies who are married and I bet some samsters here do have as well. But these relationships do not last as at the end of the day, you jolly well know you are bonded by what they call it the legal marriage agreement, a bond. A person whom you have wanted to spend your whole life with in the past.

I will not say having a ONS/FB is bad for your relationship with your husband. Sometimes it does opposite and improve your relationship with your partner as you may realize that your husband is the best afterall. Unless your husband is a *@#&*#($@#&(*&$, then what's more is there to consider.
However, despite all our advices and you still persist to go ahead, good luck and enjoy bonking.

On a side note: Most of us are very careful with our usage of verb for advise/advice arbo tio spot by uncle sammy again.

[OC.SIN09]

Originally Posted by OC.SIN09

Dear bros & sis,

Frankly I'm surprised and heartened by most of your advice. I didn't expect that most of you to advise me against it. From the threads that I read, most bro are looking forward to have FB/s! (**Please don't get me wrong, I'm not here to look for FB.)

To the bros/sis who advised me to work out with my hubby, actually I started the thread with no intention to discuss about my marriage problems but I think I should explain a little so that you can understand better.

My marriage
As mentioned earlier, I'm married for 20+ yrs.
My hubby is my 1st and only man till now. I married young at the age of 20. I'm in my early 40s. My son is in army now.

My hubby is a nice man but he is also a private and cold person. All these years with him, he has never once celebrated any special occasions (birthday, anniversary, mother's day etc) with my son & I. He values his freedom alot so there is no call or reporting on where or what he is doing. I have long accepted that this is his character. As years go by, we just drifted apart. We seldom quarell or argue as we don't really get to see each other much due to our hectic work schedule. Besides work, he is engrossed in his own hobby and activities (not cheonging GL/clubs/pubs) outside work hours. If I were a typical SG gal, believe me this marriage won't last till now.

As for sex, we are still active with at least twice a wk but it is always satisfying him 1st not me. Since he is my only sex partner, I have no way to compare until I came across the porn videos & the stories in SBF. We talked about it before but it is still the same, he cum then clean up and continue to sleep leaving me high and dry!

My only consideration for giving up the marriage is hurting both his and my parents. I have a close relationship with my in-law. I do not wish to hurt them unnecessarily.

My heart is numb towards him after all these years of 'desertion'. So it is a matter of time that we go seperate way...

I posted above last night but due to moderation, it came out much later which I guess some of the bros & sis posted their advice without much understanding of my marriage situation.

I do not want to dwell too much on it anymore as it would look like I'm talking bad about my hubby. Basically, he is a nice man. He is just not suitable for marriage life, a conclusion after 22 yrs of marriage. About spicing up the sex with him, I just want to say that all that can be done was done including sexy lingerie, toys etc.

Up to-date, I can proudly say that I have excelled in my various roles as a wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, aunty etc but I failed myself miserably. I do engage in many activities to occupy my free time but at the end of the day, the feeling of emptiness is still there...

[OC.SIN09]

Dear Loneyheart,

I like to clarify some of the pts mentioned below.

Originally Posted by loneyheart

Hi Sis

After reading yr posting I just smile w yr ignorance n try to give it a passed.
But w a lot of ???? in mind i decided to reply u w questions for yr self reflects n hope it do help u to ans to yr own question

1. You r a working OC for 20+ years with a teenage child.
R u a real sis as mention in yr post in yr 40+ ? If so u should not hv asked whether u r playing w fire.. u should be mature enough to hv brain to know t ans. OR r u just a naughty boy who just end sch holiday feel bore n try to b funny?

**I don't blame you for doubting me as I too noticed there are many kids in this forum. Judge for yourself on what I posted if I'm a kid on holiday or not.

2. Facing the same common problems in marriage as most of you here, sex with hubby is no longer exciting and satisfying. In fact, he is more like a stranger than a hubby to me now.
What did yr husband do to u ? Is he a responsible husband ? Did u try to make a 1st step to talk n share..go for vacation or something ? Did u try something sexy to enhance both sex relationship ?
Beside SEX there still something call SELF RESPECT and RESPONSIBILITY If u dont what diff u make then an animals

**Please refer to my post on my marriage.

3. Although I have many opportunities to get out of my marriage with ppl met thru my career,
If this cross yr mind , r u a flirt n only think for yr selfishness ?

**I don't understand your comment.

5. Many months ago , I met a guy (B) whom I'm quite attracted to. We started chit-chatting causally & out of the blue 1 day, he asked me to be his FB!
Only many mths...chit chat CAUSALLY...then asked to b FB ???
Hi sis i think u got more thing to hide dum u ??
How old is he >40+ married w family ? ( If not something wrong w him )
U want to blew up 2 family just to fullfill yr sex desire as a fatal attraction if someone found out ?
Or is he much younger then u , u want to be a OLD COW LIKE TO EAT GREEN YOUNG GRASS ? ...HaHa R u a Chiobu or a MILF in yr 40s as t guy asked u to b FB ? Or r u a rich MLND n he just going for yr $$$ ?

**Yes, he is married, no kid, almost same age as me. I'm not a chiobu by SBF bro standard. But I do get enough compliments from many ppl to know that I'm not that bad looking. Once in a while, ppl do steal a glance at me.

[kpkprivate]

Guess you need to unwind. . .
Play with care.
Matter of hearts, no one can decide for yourself except yourself.

Goodluck!

[realfat_joe]

Hi Sis.

Reading through your responses i can sense that you're still a very dedicated and loving wife, mother, daughter-in-law who is just going through a rough patch of self-doubt, and wanting to try our something new... something exciting that you have always read about but have not done so yourself, for whatever reasons. This is quite normal especially now that your son has gone to the army and would start his own life... and you are feeling quite 'empty'.

I suppose your husband has found his escape through his activities and hobbies... Perhaps you may wish to take the cue from him and reconsider your thoughts, and redirect it to something else, something decadent and self-indulging... perhaps a good SPA, or a girls-only holiday/cruise with your girl-friends and reenergise. Afterall, when you return, both you and your husband can start planning for your 25th anniversary which i believe would be only a couple of year away? I'm sure your son would be very very proud of the both of you.... and most importantly, you will not have any guilt overlooking your shoulders!

So go ahead with the dream SPA or cruise with the girls!

All the best!

Cheers

[bochapsing]

Originally Posted by realfat_joe

I suppose your husband has found his escape through his activities and hobbies... Perhaps you may wish to take the cue from him and reconsider your thoughts, and redirect it to something else, sometime decadent and self-indulging... perhaps a good SPA, or a girls-only holiday/cruise with your girl-friends and reenergise. Afterall, when you return, both you and your husband can start planning for your 25th anniversary which i believe would be only a couple of year away? I'm sure your son would be very very proud of the both of you.... and most importantly, you will not have any guilt overlooking your shoulder

i think tis is a pretty good advice....

occupy ur time, pamper urself without having to feel guilty later on....

anyway, as many bro said before, tat guy's approach is lame... can't see him being a serious and responsible FB...

[lglg666]

Originally Posted by OC.SIN09

Posted their advice without much understanding of my marriage situation.

I do not want to dwell too much on it anymore as it would look like I'm talking bad about my hubby. Basically, he is a nice man.

Up to-date, I can proudly say that I have excelled in my various roles as a wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, aunty etc but I failed myself miserably. I do engage in many activities to occupy my free time but at the end of the day, the feeling of emptiness is still there...

OK....guessed with this, you have more or less know what you should do to live LIFE for yourself! Life is short...and it's decision time for it's now or never! Just remember to do so with both eyes open...and no regret later!

My 2 cents advice!