My last day here-This is my story. AMA

[tsar666]

WOOOOOOOOHHHOOOOOOOOOO!! …….Hallowed be thy name

[Xgenre]

since you believe in God, you will be going to heaven right?. Christ forgives all your Sins right? So stop going to SLG go to heaven. Don't stop going to SLG also go to heaven. Why not enjoy your life?

[Regretfulman]

Originally Posted by AvidFan

Yeah, I really need help controlling my urges. I wonder if religion can save me, can I ask what’s a best way enter a church community or any

Can just visit nearby church for service. After that usually if you're a newcomer they will try to find a cell group(basically a small group of fellow churchgoers for you to join. Purpose is to give you a sense of community and help each other out. Or you can also ask your friend who is a church goer to bring you.

[Regretfulman]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

since you believe in God, you will be going to heaven right?. Christ forgives all your Sins right? So stop going to SLG go to heaven. Don't stop going to SLG also go to heaven. Why not enjoy your life?

You totally miss the point bro. The point is to escape this addiction which has brought me 0 joy,happiness,or fulfillment.

Yes God does forgive our sins. But why does he want us to not sin? Because its bad for us. I guarantee you nobody here had their lives improve after entering this lifestyle. In fact let me share with you my story.

Used to go the gym frequently, but ever since i started to cheong, only go once a week. Last time fucking strong can incline bench 1.4x my body weight, now weak as fuck. Why bother to be in good shape when I can bang a hot syt on demand for $150?

Work ethic and discipline also fall alot. Last time fucking driven, but this lifestyle of instant gratification make me weak as fuck.Started to get lazy and everytime only can think of finding new ML. Totally no motivation to improve my life.

If any bros here became richer,fitter, and much happier after bonking FLs please step forward ah.

[iamsootlor]

at the end of the day self control / balance etc. so many factors involved.

[sirmountable]

How did you have so much money as a student? Even though I earn quite well I still don't dare to spend like this lol.

Maybe cause I'm not addicted, I only use them occasionally once inna while to relieve myself. Been here since 2018.

Anyways if u are those with impulse control management issues, I agree u should stay of here, for the sake of ur health and wallet.

All the best

[AvidFan]

Originally Posted by Regretfulman

Can just visit nearby church for service. After that usually if you're a newcomer they will try to find a cell group(basically a small group of fellow churchgoers for you to join. Purpose is to give you a sense of community and help each other out. Or you can also ask your friend who is a church goer to bring you.

Thanks bro, I wish you the best and I really hope that god give me a chance to be friends with you in real life under the right circumstances.

[catlord]

Thanks for the sincere post, TS. I went through a very similar journey as you, but I didn't go to the MLs, I just went straight to GL. Yes it was very addictive initially. I also rawed a FL in GL and felt really stupid and low about it. But I didn't stop because of that. I stopped when I started getting laid with real girls (without paying). I realized that:

Pros of FLs:
- Better looks and sex skills

Pros of real girls:
- Connection and satisfaction from being with someone who genuinely wants to fuck you
- Knowing they're not fucking a hundred guys a week and I don't have to worry about my sexual health so much. If they're exclusive to you, it's even safe to raw them
- You can do other things with them than just sex, even build a relationship if you like her that way

After I started to be able to get laid with real girls regularly, there was just no point paying for sex anymore. Even though hookers can be much hotter and sluttier in bed than the average girl, I'd take a regular girl who genuinely likes me, who doesn't fuck other guys, who I can hang out and do activities with if I want to, over a hooker any day of the week.

I just think that as men, we just have the need to get laid. We shouldn't underestimate the importance of sex in a man's life. You're a horny and fit young dude, I'm sure you know how horny we are as men. Trying to suppress your sexual urges is futile and a life without sex is not a happy life, especially if your drive is high. If you're pent up it's gonna be all you can think about and you'll just end up wasting even more time watching porn or something.

We just have to be intelligent about how to obtain the sex we need. Too much of anything is bad, even sex with real girls. I found that out recently, I was juggling a roster of 6 girls that I was seeing, it was really really fun but it took up so much of my time and energy that could be used working on my business. These days I limit myself to 2-3x of sex a week. That frequency keeps me happy without taking up too much of my time.

While I don't do it anymore, I think paid sex definitely still has its place. For guys who are not able to consistently get laid with real girls, or guys who are too busy to date, paid sex is a very good solution. Just don't overdo it and don't do any stupid shit like rawing. You can just go to GL maybe 1x a week, pay $50-60, get in and get out in half an hour. Get your sexual needs met for very little time and money, so you can focus your attention elsewhere.

[donut88]

Bro, u r young. Why no gf?

Is there something about u that preventing u from having a gf?

[Regretfulman]

Originally Posted by donut88

Bro, u r young. Why no gf?

Is there something about u that preventing u from having a gf?

Ya this is my fault. Im an average looking guy, like your typical guy next door. Couldnt get any hot chicks and im not willing to settle for average girls.(bc im a horny dude who only wants hot girls lol)

This is something that im trying to work on as well. To be less superficial and try to be attracted to things other than looks. Quite worried that my cheonging days may give me unrealistic expectations also lol

[WILHD]

Bro, this may be harsh, but given your beliefs:

Don't judge aunties on their looks. They have hard lives too, I don't think they'd chose this job because they wanted to. Yeah they use fake pictures, because men are too superficial to choose anything less than a perfect fantasy.

You want to think about spirituality and God, remember the only real reason your acts are seen as sinful is because pleasure is bad, but because no amount of money is in reality worth the body of a human being for even one minute, even if she's ugly. You still have the client pride within you when you judge that harshly that you've been scammed for what you don't even consider to be lawful trade. "Rejection cost" is a disgrace, you're putting another insult on a sacred body. Try to see the souls before you as well.

[Regretfulman]

Originally Posted by WILHD

Bro, this may be harsh, but given your beliefs:

Don't judge aunties on their looks. They have hard lives too, I don't think they'd chose this job because they wanted to. Yeah they use fake pictures, because men are too superficial to choose anything less than a perfect fantasy.

You want to think about spirituality and God, remember the only real reason your acts are seen as sinful is because pleasure is bad, but because no amount of money is in reality worth the body of a human being for even one minute, even if she's ugly. You still have the client pride within you when you judge that harshly that you've been scammed for what you don't even consider to be lawful trade. "Rejection cost" is a disgrace, you're putting another insult on a sacred body. Try to see the souls before you as well.

Yes your right. I dont judge them for their looks since everybody ages and most of the people are not in control of how they look. I also understand most of them are in this line due to economic hardship and unfortunate circumstances.

But i must admit, when i was in this lifestyle and the lust took over, when i open the door and the lady looks cui i will be fking dulan. I wouldnt say "rejection cost" is a disgrace. Its like you buy durian and the seller open up you can reject. But the only difference is that its free. But then again durians are commodities and humans are not.

So if youre in my shoes and the lady is a landmine, you will just accept?

[WILHD]

Originally Posted by Regretfulman

Yes your right. I dont judge them for their looks since everybody ages and most of the people are not in control of how they look. I also understand most of them are in this line due to economic hardship and unfortunate circumstances.

But i must admit, when i was in this lifestyle and the lust took over, when i open the door and the lady looks cui i will be fking dulan. I wouldnt say "rejection cost" is a disgrace. Its like you buy durian and the seller open up you can reject. But the only difference is that its free. But then again durians are commodities and humans are not.

So if youre in my shoes and the lady is a landmine, you will just accept?

I think you should have given her the full pay as a "rejection cost" as it would have helped her hardship without soiling her this time, and you would have made a break and thought deeply about who really profits from this trade (not you, not her), but I know it's hard to fight that lust and that perspective only comes in the moment after, I am not judging you bro.

[xels]

Originally Posted by Regretfulman

If any bros here became richer,fitter, and much happier after bonking FLs please step forward ah.

in life, its all about what motivates you.

i had a long term relationship for >7 years which was almost sexless at the ending. in the first few years, sex was regular and even good, but as with almost all sinkie women, devolved into almost nothing at the ending. it left me feeling unwanted, thinking i was unskilled, and generally low confidence.

I went to MLs and FLs after ending the relationship, but with the mindset that these activities were purely monetary transactions - you get what you pay for, regardless of GFE or whatever. its the same for the ML/FL too.

honestly, i regained my confidence, and my demeanour around non FL/ML women changed drastically - i no longer was acting like a simp around women, my workouts were devoted to purely for self fulfilment and finally, i was no longer shackled to my job/finances for the sake of a relationship - i took bigger risks with my money and did much better.

all of these was because i knew that getting my sexual urges resolved was just a monetary transaction away. it seems to be quite the opposite of yourself.

in short, your motivations are the primary factor. if it helps, i am not religious and feel absolutely no remorse or regret engaging ML/FLs. life is too short to worry about what others think of you, but what you do for yourself. if you cant love yourself, no one else will love you.

[CDNsa]

Originally Posted by xels

in life, its all about what motivates you.

i had a long term relationship for >7 years which was almost sexless at the ending. in the first few years, sex was regular and even good, but as with almost all sinkie women, devolved into almost nothing at the ending. it left me feeling unwanted, thinking i was unskilled, and generally low confidence.

I went to MLs and FLs after ending the relationship, but with the mindset that these activities were purely monetary transactions - you get what you pay for, regardless of GFE or whatever. its the same for the ML/FL too.

honestly, i regained my confidence, and my demeanour around non FL/ML women changed drastically - i no longer was acting like a simp around women, my workouts were devoted to purely for self fulfilment and finally, i was no longer shackled to my job/finances for the sake of a relationship - i took bigger risks with my money and did much better.

all of these was because i knew that getting my sexual urges resolved was just a monetary transaction away. it seems to be quite the opposite of yourself.

in short, your motivations are the primary factor. if it helps, i am not religious and feel absolutely no remorse or regret engaging ML/FLs. life is too short to worry about what others think of you, but what you do for yourself. if you cant love yourself, no one else will love you.

Can relate here. Especially the last comment. Love yourself first