Mistresses...so sad but true

[tanhockgin]

The link:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...-sleep-me.html

The article:
She is a divorcee who knows first hand the pain that infidelity can cause, yet 42-year-old Karen Marley still chooses to be an utterly shameless serial mistress.
Here the photographer from Richmond, North Yorkshire, describes how she has dated 20 married men - and plans to have affairs with many more. However much you may disagree with what she has to say, hers is a story every wife - and husband - should read...
Yesterday afternoon my lover James lay beside me in our hotel bedroom as I massaged his back and listened to the stresses and strains of his week. I've been seeing James - who is 36 and gorgeous - for three months, and I love the way he so clearly appreciates every second of his time with me.
You see, James - like my last 20 or so dates - is married. And that's just the way I like it.
I love being a mistress - married men make much better lovers than single men. I made a lifestyle decision eight years ago to date only men with wives, and I've never been happier.
I know many people - especially married women - may be horrified, dismissing me as a selfish floozy, but I'm convinced the life I've chosen is far more satisfying than those of wives stuck in dead-end marriages.
This way, I get the best things from a relationship - with none of the domestic drudgery. And the men in my life see me as their chance to escape their mundane lives.
Take James, a solicitor: his wife is desperate for a new kitchen; meanwhile he's worried about redundancy and the pressure of paying the mortgage and private school fees for two children.
It's no wonder being with me is a blissful escape. By the time he left, having made love and enjoyed our chat, he was so much more relaxed.
All my married lovers have been professional and charismatic, including Daniel, 40, a designer, who I've dated for three years, and Paul, 58, an accountant, who I've seen on and off for a year.
To all intents and purposes, they are 'happy' at home with their large houses, children, gym memberships and luxury holidays. But their wives are often wrapped up in raising children and running the home.
These men need something extra in their lives - and that's what I give them. Once they get to know me, they realise I am different from any other mistress. I am not sad, or lonely, and my lifestyle is my choice. I enjoy the intimacy of a relationship, but like my freedom too much to give it all up.
The married men I meet enjoy making me feel special - and I enjoy being thoroughly spoilt. They pay for everything and it's clear I'm their number one.

I'm sure the women would be utterly shocked if they discovered their husbands
were seeing me. But if they weren't having an affair with me, it would be someone else.
At least the wives have nothing too much to worry about. Put simply, I am the perfect mistress. We always have safe sex and I am never going to ask their husbands to leave them - because I don't want the sort of humdrum, domestic relationship where both partners take each other for granted.
Don't get me wrong, I care deeply for the men I date, but as they belong to someone else I don't let myself love them. I'm very controlled with my emotions and never give 100 per cent to anyone.
Over the years, a couple of wives have found out about me. A few years ago, one man sent me a text saying he'd confessed to his wife about our affair and after a huge bust-up had decided to end his marriage.
I can imagine the average mistress would have welcomed her lover with open arms, delighted he'd chosen her over his wife. But I was horrified.
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Professional mistress Karen Marley only has affairs with married men, but she would hate them to leave their wives, she says
I never dreamed he'd leave his wife for me and told him bluntly that I no longer wanted to see him.
Another time, a wife who had discovered my number on her husband's mobile phone rang, expecting a confrontation.
I explained that, in my eyes, she had no worries, as I would never want her husband to leave her. Obviously she felt betrayed, but that was her problem, not mine. Perhaps I was the wake-up call she needed to make her take a good look at her marriage.
The whole point of my life is that I have chosen to date married men to avoid hassle.
They must be intelligent, professional, successful and good conversationalists - then we will date once we have made contact, usually through dating websites.
I am more than happy not to see them at Christmas or Easter, or any of those other 'family' days, because I have a wonderful family I see on those days.
But the rest of the year I live in luxury - with afternoons spent in hotels and evenings in restaurants. And before all the wives out there shriek that I don't know how tough it is being married, I can tell them that I do.
For eight years, I was married to Alan, now 52, an engineer. I was 22 when we met and 25 when we married.
When I made my vows, I wanted to remain married for ever. I had been brought up with traditional middle-class values. My parents had been happily married for 35 years and I always envisaged following the same path.
Alan and I bought a four-bedroom house together and decided neither of us really wanted children. Then, as we both worked long hours, we drifted apart.
When I was 33, we divorced, and six months later I met Robert, a 42-year- old businessman, with whom I had a three-and-a-half-year relationship. When he left me for his ex-girlfriend, I was heartbroken.
Six months later, I dated Matthew, 36, a horse trainer, and discovered that he was sleeping with his ex-wife, too.
Despite these experiences, I did not go looking to have an affair with a married man as revenge. I simply realised how much I enjoyed living on my own. I have a beautiful cottage and a good job as a photographer.
But as I began to meet one gorgeous married man after another, I realised I could have an intimate long-term relationship and enjoy my freedom.
Of course, it doesn't take a psychologist to realise that some of this is buried deeply in my background. My father, who died when I was 21, was a wonderfully charismatic man and we were incredibly close. I have found myself comparing the men I've met with him, and they never match up.
Maybe if I did meet someone who was like him I might change, but this situation suits me so well that I cannot imagine that ever happening.
I would also be wary of any relationship, simply because I know first hand how unfaithful men can be. When I discovered Matthew's infidelity, I asked him why he did it and he replied: 'Because I could. She was just there.' I now believe that at least eight out of ten men are unfaithful.
As for me, my close friends and family are not shocked by the way I live and they know I would never make a play for one of their husbands.
The last thing I am going to do is take some loving wife's wonderful husband away from her for good.
It may sound crass to some people, but there are so many married men out there looking for an affair that I know there will be another one just round the corner.

[wally888]

Wish we could have one in Sg

[alan10]

Very good story! Could have happen in Sg discretely.

[Coffeecans]

And I seriously hope the one in SG look better that the one ang mo featured hahhahahahhaaa