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Old 14-08-2020, 11:57 AM
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Originally Posted by larue View Post
Is she aware of how frustrating her low sex drive is for you? The best outcome might be you all find a way to boost it?

Maybe you should be less of a gentleman in bed?

Maybe you all will come to some agreement as to how you can fulfil your needs elsewhere?

Or just keep it simple and do what many guys do which is to keep the domestic peace but just eat out carefully. Seems to preserve the sanity of many guys.
Hmm.Just a passer-by and for the record yah I do eat out, else won't be in this forum.

Kinda sense some angst in your comments or perhaps you are more of a straight talker, which could benefit some readers of this thread.

But valid points you made. More often than not couples don't communicate their xxx frustration openly, be it shy, scared to hurt the partner feelings or as you have rightly pointed out, seeking an excuse to eat out.

My take is this, if the xxx doesn't wow since beginning,it is very unlikely to be spicy later on unless one/both parties suddenly change of personality. If a guy/ gal dun wish to cheat, then just live with the mundane xxx and find ways to satisfy own needs through porn (more for males) and juicy novels (ladies loves it). But if even self pleasuring feels like cheating to the person then one just have to tell himself/herself that xxx will just be a "duty" from now on, and focus on the partner's non xxx related positive traits to keep the marriage strong.

For me, haven't touch my partner for a decade. Still together, we just focus on other aspects of the relationship. Not gonna pin any blame on anyone but xxx with her is just not arousing since beginning. Tried to improve but sometimes things are just as it is. Instead of going through the motion and becoming a chore, I just stopped and told her xxx is nolonger something I feel I want to carry on in the relationship. After much debate, she accepted and to be honest, it is much better since then, as I no longer have to fake it, feeling bad in the process, which totally defeat the purpose of having xxx.

Eating out has shown me a different xxx world, and I don't mean just transactional type. Have my share of great xxx long relationship with married ladies, whom too, have dissatisfied xxx life at home. My best xxx experience are with them. For paid xxx there are very good ones too but end of the day gotta remember is just a transaction to meet a moment of need. Nothing more.

So yah, for me peace is maintained at home due to my eat out and self pleasuring, when xxx are met, less friction/ frustration. Is it right? Well, we choose our own paths and be our own judge. Apologies for the long post, as said, happened to passby and got intrigued.

Lastly, readers here should take heed of your golden advice. That too gentlemen in bed is boring as hell and one key reason married ladies seek to be pleased by other man. If I may add, most importantly is to put the xxx focus on pleasuring the ladies first and foremost. Too often men are overly fixated on own needs and not realising that gals needs to be warmed up and feel desired. Practice this and most of the time, she will reward you handsomely. Pity it didn't work on my own legal partner, hope other guys have better luck.

Last edited by Johndick; 14-08-2020 at 12:29 PM.