[Willamshakspear]

Normally, the insignificant nobody me would advise against divorce, but try to find ways and means to reconcile, as marriage is sacred & binds each to another on an eternal oath.

However, when it gets to the point when you are contemplating ending your life by suicide, it shows has disastrous the marriage had became, made worse by the alcoholism of your partner, which makes reconciliation difficult, as I can visualize the effects of alcoholism & the baggage that accompanies such, as most alcoholics do not drink alone, but with company, as well as the fact that you both live now in separate rooms..

Divorce is legal in Singapore. But as you both love your son, it will be a bitter custody fight in courts, & the costs involved would be very high, costs that would had given your child the necessary uni education he would need, to achieve in life.

You will have savings that may help to pay the high legal fees, but do not under-estimate your wife's financial ability, as she will have a family & friends to turn to, as well as access to loans.

Thus you will have to be pragmatic, like most Singaporeans. When a child is involved, the Court will usually give Joint Custody, regardless of who win in Court. You will never need to worry about not being able to see your son even if you lose.

So, rather than a bitter fight, go for uncontested divorce instead. Let her keep the son, & never be held hostage by her obstructive demands again. The legal costs are small, only around $2k. Your assets & joint bank accounts will be divided up equally. Sell the home, split the profits, and each go on to live life, wiser this time, each free to find a hopefully better companion for life. As for the alimony, you can get your lawyer to discuss, negotiate & fine tune the terms & conditions to an agreed sum satisfactory to both.

As for your son that you love, you will still be able to see him at least once a week, as well as everyday on social media, to keep in touch with him, to guide him, & be the anchor for him in his life, even if his mother fails to do so.

With the savings made from the uncontested divorce, you will be able to give him a better future, & your mind free to live life than in daily bitterness...