Thread: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
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Old 17-09-2020, 03:23 PM
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Re: In my mid 30s, no gf, no friends, stuck in hdb with mum
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Originally Posted by supershaft View Post
tbh.. nowadays u wana have kids, must be prepared to jaga all the way regardless of the age.

u will want ur kid to care for u when u r old right?

the point is, if one decides to be a parent, he or she has an unspoken obligatory need to be selfless, regardless of the situation.
If not, then may as well ownself jaga ownself till old.
Like I said, I don't agree with your point, to jaga the kids all the way means they will never grow up, they will always fall back to the parent. Then after I died, they going to fall back to who?"

I think maybe because you are not a parent so you think differently. I have seen too many cases where the parents brought up 败家子，金山银山也不够败。Then? 2 sometimes 3 generations suffer altogether.

My family teaching very simple: Educate the kids as much as I can then let them go to learn to stand on their own feet, because 1 day they will be the head of their own household and must be able to carry that burden on their own. If I teach them the right values like filial piety, they will be filial to me no need to say I must jaga them then in my old age they jaga me.