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Originally Posted by Hotfuzz

In my 40s and in the process of getting a divorce, I'm in the US.
I get most of the child, 80% of the custody.
Will probably pay alimony of about USD 1.3k a month.
She will probably get about USD400k lumpsum after I buy out her portion of our house, split stocks.

My soon-to-be-ex, is a spendthrift, bad tempered, not-family minded and has no respect for me and my family, even though I make 3X her salary and treat her and her family with respect and pay for 90% of the household expenses, including vacations etc. So, I am done. There is no sob story, it's just life.

Only the weak minded and ones lacking in self confidence will dwell in the past. If you need to divorce, you should do it and not worry. Life is too short to live with somebody that you cannot stand. This is my second divorce, and my life had improved on many fronts since my first divorce, except for my second marriage. The only good thing that came out of my second marriage is my kid.

What did you like about her when you marry her?

She very chio? Give you good sex?