Hi fellow Bros, Sis and Swingers
Every so often, we receive mails and PMs with questions on the swinging lifestyle. While we're no experts, we have had more than our fair share of experiences - from slowly edging out and finding our feet, to really enjoying the freedom of expression the lifestyle can generate.
And of course, we've met many great couples - both married (like ourselves) and not - of different backgrounds and personalities. Thankfully we've had more ups than downs so far *touch wood - if you know what I mean
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So, while this is in no way a definitive guide, we've decided to put down a couple of terminologies and a small reference guide for those finding their feet. And experienced swingers do feel free to add and share as well.
(Un)Definitive Definitions:
- Orgy: A group having sexual fun together - irregardless of gender make-up. Swinging and Gangbangs are a form of Orgies
- Swing: Partners required. General rule - Guys come with partners. Single ladies are usually allowed.
- Gangbang: Usually ration of guys to gals is at least 2:1.
Labels:
One of the most confusing things that we had trouble keeping up with were the different labels and levels of swingers. It's always good to determine the particular label of the couples and
communicate clearly to avoid any sort of unpleasant misunderstandings. Here are some of the common ones.
Soft Swinging:
- Popcorn: Just sit and watch others
- SRS: Same room sex - no touching
- No Oral: Touching allowed. But oral only to own partner.
- ABP: Anything but penetration. Guys... your "little (or not so little) explorer" can only journey into your partner's secret garden. No free trade agreement to enter into the other. Or even touch the gates. Oral is OK.
Hard/Full Swing: Let's have fun!
Labels can sometimes blur in definition and cross over between each other... so
clear and proper communication always recommended to avoid disappointment or any unpleasantness.
Meet-ups:
Meet-ups can be arranged for drinks/coffee for a chat session before any play or some arrange for play straightaway. It's a personal preference.
Locations can vary from budget to 5 star hotels, apartments or for some... cars (uh.. not our thing).
Meet-ups can come in the form of 1-1 meet-ups or group events and parties.
- 1-1: Nothing much to be said. Both parties arrange among yourselves.
- Group hosted events: Location is provided for by a gracious host. Turn up and enjoy yourselves.
- Group Cost sharing parties: Cost of location, booze and others shared between everyone. A common arrangement.
Other terms:
BYOB: Bring your own
Booze
BYOC: Bring your own
Condoms
BYOT: Bring your own
Towels
Points to note:
- Be respectful. No need for overly rude remarks or comments.
- Be honest to your partner - and the other couple/s.
- No RAW - unless its a common understanding between all parties.
- If it's not in the same room it's not swinging.
........ and finally
HAVE FUN!
* To all experienced swingers feel free to post your advice, and newbies your questions *