Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

better you settle your urges outside and go home be a good husband and father. best of both worlds

You make some fair points.

Just two points, that I want to emphasize.

Men's sex drives vary widely. I'm one of those guys who generally need a release everyday..sometimes more than once a day and I'm nearly 50. Lack of sex is deadly, for someone like me. Yes I have many friends who are quite all right with sex once a week. To me, that is unacceptable.

Secondly, men will very easily fall in lobe when they always have sex with the same woman. That's my point behind not fucking the same woman twice, if TS decides to go overseas. Once emotions get into the picture then the man's view of his life situation will also change. Perhaps the guys you know all have great self control, but I frequently see a simple lack of sex snowballing into something a lot more serious than just an adventure for additional variety. Generally the more money and power a man has, the greater the temptations and the more likely that problems appear.

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

You just have the wrong wife. I would not trade my married life for anything under the sun. But the again my wife doesnt mind me going on sex trips abroad and never refuses me sex either. I have the best of both worlds, freedom sexually but a committed stable and loving partner at home. As long as I dont fall in love with anyone else, all is well. Which I have no desire or intention to do at all. You may think this is rare but not as rare as you think. I have other friends having similar relationships.

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

i would actually agree with this. i do have friends although not many, who have wives that let their husbands aka my friends enjoy outside as long as they do not bring the enjoyment home and do not wreck the family.

😲 How do these guys even initiate the Convo with their wives that they going to have paid sex outside? My sense is majority won't allow.

This is only applicable to husbands who provide well for the family.

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

1. expectations set before marriage.
2. mutual understanding, im going drinking with my friends, wife dont ask so much.
3. yes they provide well for the family.
4. there is a 4th point though. a certain respect of status, they dont do it so often. and still have a healthy sexual relationship with their wives. keep the wives feeling wanted.

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

point number 4 agreed.

although now its harder to find girls that can accept because they brainwashed by the princess mentatlity

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

if this is true, i suspect the marriage is already dead for a long time.

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

not that i am encouraging this, but it is possible to meet more traditional women although less likely in our generation, that understands male needs and close one eye to playing outside as long as she is still wanted by the husband. seen on facebook people sharing multiple wives.

Very True. If its an informed decision by both party why not? Mutually agreed

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

this kind of wife hard to find. i also want

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

as our bros replied, certain expectations set at early stage of relationship. for me when i pick a girl up, i will say i have gf already, if they willing then they know what to do.

when i met my gf, i also say i am not good guy. will fool around but outside is outside. this is a few years back. break up already but when we were bf gf, she in chiang mai i in sg i can play around just dont bring home.

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

Yes, all of the above is true in my case.

1.This was discussed long before marriage.
2. Wife knows i am fucking around, not drinking with friends but she doesnt ask details about who and what. She does joke around with me about "all my girls" though.
3. Yes I take care of her very well. But I am not a SD. She has a good high paying job herself and we share household expenses. But I cover the extras like vacations etc.
4. Yes we still have a good sex life together as well and are totally in love with each other. The sex outside for me is no different than going to dinner with friends. It doesnt change anything in our relationship except it makes me never want to leave!

Re: Married but longing the life of a Bachelor
 

Yes, on the contrary, if the wife lets the husband fool around with no emotions involved with other girls, the husband is actually more happy and doesn't want to leave such an understanding wife