Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch (Post 23284791)

My personal view though? Mai tu liao, divorce is better than being stuck in a sexless loveless marriage.

Originally Posted by Xgenre (Post 23307730)

Depends on their current state of life. If in their 40s, better to tolerate than to leave her. If he chooses divorce, he may need to pay alimony, child maintenance, have restricted access to his kids. Once the kids are stuck in between, the closeness will not be like before.

Right now she is sharing in the time, effort and financial burden of parenthood. In a way, she is helping him have more time, energy and money to go out with his FWB. The only condition is no intimacy which he has successfully outsourced.

Once he reaches the age where his sex drive dips, he may end up being as close to his wife as before. You never know how estranged couples bond over future grandchildren.

Originally Posted by Xgenre (Post 23307730)

Depends on their current state of life. If in their 40s, better to tolerate than to leave her. If he chooses divorce, he may need to pay alimony, child maintenance, have restricted access to his kids. Once the kids are stuck in between, the closeness will not be like before.

Right now she is sharing in the time, effort and financial burden of parenthood. In a way, she is helping him have more time, energy and money to go out with his FWB. The only condition is no intimacy which he has successfully outsourced.

Once he reaches the age where his sex drive dips, he may end up being as close to his wife as before. You never know how estranged couples bond over future grandchildren.

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior (Post 23328143)

true.... good share

Originally Posted by Xgenre (Post 23307730)

Depends on their current state of life. If in their 40s, better to tolerate than to leave her. If he chooses divorce, he may need to pay alimony, child maintenance, have restricted access to his kids. Once the kids are stuck in between, the closeness will not be like before.

Right now she is sharing in the time, effort and financial burden of parenthood. In a way, she is helping him have more time, energy and money to go out with his FWB. The only condition is no intimacy which he has successfully outsourced.

Once he reaches the age where his sex drive dips, he may end up being as close to his wife as before. You never know how estranged couples bond over future grandchildren.

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch (Post 23284791)

Full disclaimer: I am not a lawyer.

If I were you I'd be secretly recording down a couple of times you have this convo with your wife and she tells you to go and use your hands. If you can trigger an actual argument with her where she candidly tells you in a fit of anger or whatever that she no longer has any interest in making your marriage with her a sexually fulfilling or even active one, even better for you.

Then keep the recordings and go have your FWB extramarital sex life. They will be useful in future to protect yourself with in best case scenario of you initiating divorce citing irretrievable breakdown of marriage due to breakdown in intimacy, or in worst case scenario if she finds out about you fucking someone outside and wants a divorce with you, those recordings can come in handy when played to the judge in court to demonstrate that the marriage breakdown isn't 100% down to you committing adultery outside.

My personal view though? Mai tu liao, divorce is better than being stuck in a sexless loveless marriage.

Originally Posted by suzy4ever (Post 23332068)

but in reality, at a certain age, when it's time to stop playing, you will definitely return to a close relationship with your wife and spend the rest of your life together. there is a time to play and stop

Originally Posted by ghostcow (Post 23332599)

Thank senior bro for this advice, will keep in mind in the future if I end up in sexless marriage.

Any senior bros can share whether marry sinkie bu will be sexless marriage? Thanks

Originally Posted by dman19 (Post 23346348)

I think you marry any bu also can end up in sexless marriage. Well sometimes you have to ask yourself if what you are looking for in a marriage. Lets say you marry a girl who gives you lots and plenty of sex anytime you want it but treat your family and kids like sh*t and put them in second priority, would you want to live through that?

I encourage sinkies to marry sinkie bu, because we can complain all we want about their sinkie girl traits but there are plenty of long term benefits. Ultimately you have to understand why girls from overseas all dying to marry here. It is mainly for the one thing. Material comfort. So of course you can expect them to treat you like a king (before marriage) and get kc by them deep deep. To be honest, those I have seen, more than 50% have issues with overseas marriages. Many of them end up tanking the girl’s family problems. This is sometime less expected when you marry a sinkie just for one example.

Originally Posted by dman19 (Post 23346348)

I think you marry any bu also can end up in sexless marriage. Well sometimes you have to ask yourself if what you are looking for in a marriage. Lets say you marry a girl who gives you lots and plenty of sex anytime you want it but treat your family and kids like sh*t and put them in second priority, would you want to live through that?

I encourage sinkies to marry sinkie bu, because we can complain all we want about their sinkie girl traits but there are plenty of long term benefits. Ultimately you have to understand why girls from overseas all dying to marry here. It is mainly for the one thing. Material comfort. So of course you can expect them to treat you like a king (before marriage) and get kc by them deep deep. To be honest, those I have seen, more than 50% have issues with overseas marriages. Many of them end up tanking the girl’s family problems. This is sometime less expected when you marry a sinkie just for one example.

Originally Posted by dman19 (Post 23346348)

I encourage sinkies to marry sinkie bu, because we can complain all we want about their sinkie girl traits but there are plenty of long term benefits. Ultimately you have to understand why girls from overseas all dying to marry here. It is mainly for the one thing. Material comfort. So of course you can expect them to treat you like a king (before marriage) and get kc by them deep deep. To be honest, those I have seen, more than 50% have issues with overseas marriages. Many of them end up tanking the girl’s family problems. This is sometime less expected when you marry a sinkie just for one example.